The Dark Side of Fairness: How Trying to Be Equal Divides Us

The pursuit of fairness has become a central tenet of social discourse and policy-making. But I will argue that the current push for “fairness” in society has charted a path to unfairness that undermines psychological safety, will unavoidably create division, and could even lead to civil war.

The Innate Sense of Fairness: Lessons from Capuchin Monkeys

To set the stage, let’s talk about the importance of fairness to the human brain. There was a fascinating experiment done with Capuchin Monkeys which you can see here.

In this experiment, two capuchin monkeys are placed in adjacent cages and asked to complete the same task. Upon completion, one monkey receives a grape, while the other, observing this, eagerly performs the task but is rewarded only with a piece of cucumber.

Unsurprisingly, the monkey given the cucumber reacts angrily, even throwing it back at the researcher. The experiment is done very well to bring out ONE thing – our brains are triggered when we experience unfair treatment. This behavior highlights a natural and innate instinct for fairness.

The Role of Empathy in Human Connections

Furthermore, humans are social animals, and so our brains have specialized circuitry to help us connect with each other on an emotional level. We call this “empathy”, and the stronger that circuitry is, the more one person can “feel” the joys and pains of another. In a sense, one brain mirrors the emotions and feelings of another brain. If you want to experience this for yourself, watch this commercial from Ikea that demonstrates this human brain feature perfectly.

So, in a very real sense, empathetic people can “feel” the pain of another person who they see being treated unfairly. So, whether a person is being treated unfairly or they see another being treated unfairly, they are likely to respond with an innate and natural anger.

Fairness is a Universal Trigger

I hope after reading the information above and watching the videos, you are nodding your head in agreement at the obvious importance of fairness and one’s ability to lash out at those who are creating perceived unfairness. Fairness is a trigger that all humans have, albeit at different sensitivities.

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Now, let’s confront the problem of the implementation of fairness in society. What is fairness?

The Cambridge Dictionary defines it as “the quality of treating people equally or in a way that is right or reasonable.”

ChatGPT takes it further and says, “Fairness is about making decisions without bias, ensuring everyone is treated equally and justly. It involves applying consistent standards to give everyone an equal opportunity while considering individual needs and circumstances.”

And here is the rub, both definitions talk about treating people “equally,” and ChatGPT talks about decision-making without bias. But what does “equally” mean? How do we ensure this is done “in a way that is right and reasonable”?

The Problem with Trying to be “Fair”

The answers to these questions may seem obvious to some, but it’s important to note that centuries of studying human behavior show that it’s impossible to make decisions completely free of bias. The concept of “equity,” based on “consistent standards,” requires standards that are both comprehensive and unbiased—an impossible task.

This dilemma leads us to a subjective metric of “equity,” similar to how Supreme Justice Potter Stewart described his criteria for determining obscenity: “I know it when I see it.” This presents a serious issue, as what one person perceives as equity might be seen as unfair by another.

Examples of Perceived Unfairness in Business Policies

While I could provide broader examples from society, I will focus on a few specific cases in the business realm.

1 – Uniform Management Styles

Uniformly managing all team members by allowing them to achieve their targets without “micro-managing” them. For team members who are high on their need for autonomy and low on their need for certainty, this policy will be wonderful, but for team members who are not high on autonomy and/or are high on their need for certainty, this will be a nightmare – and will come across as very unfair.

2 – Uniform Benefits Packages

Sometimes benefits packages are designed more to suit one group over another. For example, free gym passes will suit a particular part of a company while reduced cost child care will impact another potentially different group. Same with work-from-home policies – which can benefit more autonomous workers but stunt those who need mentorship or are already quite socially isolated and would prefer face-to-face time. Again, this well-meaning “equality” policy can be very unfair.

3 – Across-the-Board Pay Raises (or lack thereof)

I have a personal example of this situation. The company I worked for had a poor year overall, however, my project generated millions in profits – having its best year ever.  When they announced stunted bonuses across the board, I was very upset and felt this was totally unfair.  Thankfully, my protests were heard, and my compensation was adjusted. But sometimes, this well-meaning approach to equity can lead to a feeling of extreme unfairness.

4 – Hiring Quotas

This is one of the most contentious topics on my list. It has also become a hot button for many employees and investors alike. And has created an attack vector used to degrade employees who are part of the exact group this is meant to treat “equally” –  “Oh, you must be a diversity hire”. Not hiring the person who is the best and most suited for a job, and instead choosing to create an obviously biased policy (choosing based on gender or skin color) will unavoidably lead to a strong feeling of unfairness.

5 – Open and Common Team Member Feedback Forums

This had been an interesting policy created with the idea of developing an open and honest structure for feedback and improvement – again, an idea to make things more open and transparent in order to be more fair. It is famously being used at Netflix and Bridgewater Associates – two highly successful companies. But for those who are high in their need for esteem, this format can trigger them such that they rebel, perform at reduced levels, or even leave. For these companies and those who follow their ideology a culture of openness is deemed more important than an individual’s brain needs. But make no mistake, this is not a policy of fairness but a policy of excluding those who have different brain triggers. It intentionally creates inequality to a specific end.

What’s the Solution? Focus on Psychological Safety

We need to move away from a superficial focus on fairness and equity, as this often leads to feelings of unfairness. Companies like Netflix and Bridgewater should be transparent about their priorities, openly admitting that they prioritize creating a specific culture over simply striving for equity or fairness.

Ultimately, financial success is the key metric for most companies. If a business prioritizes equity and fairness to the detriment of its profitability, it risks going out of business, which would be unfair to all stakeholders involved. The focus should be on building high-performing teams that drive success.

Research from Googleshows that teams with “psychological SAFETY” perform best. This means managers and teams must understand and respect each other’s brain-based SAFETY triggers.

Implementing this approach can help create a workplace where people feel genuinely valued and understood, ultimately fostering a culture where all brain’ needs are acknowledged and respected – i.e. we build a truly, not superficially fair, culture facilitating individuals on teams to work together as highly efficient and productive teams – which makes everyone win!

Dive into the S.A.F.E.T.Y.™ Model

Based on the latest neuroscience, the SAFETY™ Model describes six domains of threat or reward that are important to the brain.

The S.A.F.E.T.Y.™ Assessment is a validated tool to quantify which of these domains is most (and least) important to your brain in your quest for psychological safety.  The professional report reveals your brain’s S.A.F.E.T.Y.™ profile and preferences to help build self-awareness around what triggers your brain, how it may impact others and how to manage those triggers.

In a team environment sharing team member’s profiles and how they derive their sense of psychological safety, as well as the team’s S.A.F.E.T.Y.™ profile helps to build awareness and appreciation for the diversity of S.A.F.E.T.Y.™ needs on the team, and the practical strategies to nurture needs to foster psychological safety.

For a deeper understanding of the brain-based approach to building Psychological Safety read the book ‘Psychological Safety: The key to happy, high-performing people and teams’.

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A Brain-based Approach: The Future of Leadership

If you’re reading this article, I’m sure you’ve been exposed to numerous philosophies around how to improve leadership capacity. Usually, there’s an inverse correlation between the number of books on a topic and an agreed-upon understanding of said topic. For example, there are literally hundreds of different diet books around the globe, yet obesity, heart disease, hypertension, and diabetes are all on the rise.

Similarly, despite the wide variety of leadership manuals out there, we continue to see employee performance suffer. The 2023 global Gallup survey (>122K employees in 160 countries) found that 44% of employees questioned reported “a lot of stress” in their workplace, which is a record high since data collection began 13 years ago. In addition, 51% of currently employed workers stated that they were actively seeking a new job, and not surprisingly, 59% of employees globally report being not engaged (i.e., “quiet quitting”).

Introducing Neuroscience as the Core Solution

Obviously, we still haven’t cracked the code for leading our employees to fully realize their potential. As with any complex phenomenon, the best place to start is at the core or foundation of the issue. This is where neuroscience comes into play. Understanding the basic biological drivers of our behaviors and decision-making can help leaders become more self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and ultimately more effective. Indeed, current ongoing academic research is validating this idea of the psychological benefits of neuro-education.

The Importance of Self-Awareness in Leadership

In our experience, this makes sense, as from a neuroscience standpoint, effective leadership includes ensuring that people have self-awareness around what is driving their behaviors so that they can think clearly and avoid the pitfalls of bias and irrational decision-making. What we’ve found is that this self-awareness starts with knowing our specific psychological stressors, as only then can we hope to recognize their impact on ourselves and others. This ability to scrutinize our own perceptions of the world is an incredibly powerful tool, as it allows us to step out of our own “version” of reality and see it more objectively.

“It’s Not Me, It’s My Brain”: Embracing Metacognition

“It’s not me, it’s my brain” is the mantra we use to describe the philosophy that follows when we develop this ability, and what we’ve found is that it opens people to more of a growth mindset and propensity to appreciate diverse perspectives. This self-awareness via “metacognition” (i.e., thinking about your thinking) is critical for truly effective leadership. We know that based upon the way our brain is wired, we cannot focus on others until we feel safe. So if I have poor self-management and I don’t take care of my psychological stress triggers, then my team suffers.

Focusing on the Self as the Starting Point

So, from a neuroscience standpoint, focusing on the “self” is the necessary starting point. The additional perk to this is that once a leader creates this brain-centred self-awareness, it not only enhances their team dynamics but also improves their personal well-being and relationships in their daily lives. You take your brain everywhere you go, so being able to understand and manage your triggers not only makes it easier to be a more effective leader with your team but also helps you better understand your family members or that clerk in the supermarket with a vastly different political ideology than you.

Building Objective and Inclusive Team Dynamics

Once you have a brain-based perspective and filter, you can now be more objective and open-minded in your relationships with team members as the veil of bias is less blinding. This leads to more positive collaborations and starts to build a team that feels valued for who they are, and words like “vulnerable” and “belonging” start to emerge as ways to describe team members. In this sense, neuro-education can be seen as a critical starting point for making meaningful changes in stress management, resilience, and DEIB initiatives.

The Role of Psychological Safety and ISO 45003

Leaders who have a grasp on developing a psychologically safe approach will need to become the norm as organizations struggle to comply with the recent guidance from the International Organization for Standardization (ISO). Their most recent standard (ISO 45003) involves mental health in the workplace and specifically calls out psychological safety and health as a responsibility of employers and lays out specific guidelines to manage psychosocial risks. A key takeaway from the ISO 45003 is the need to have reinforcement to truly build and maintain psychological safety on a team. The natural starting point for understanding and nurturing psychological safety is at its biological foundation—the brain.

Implementing Brain-Based Leadership Strategies

This means that creating neuro-education and self-awareness is simply the first step. Leaders then need to make a commitment to maintaining this safety for themselves and others, utilizing sufficient tools, metrics, and processes to proactively monitor and manage psychological safety. This is where ABL provides support in the form of a validated assessment, leader toolkits, and ongoing psychological safety “pulse checks” to diagnose any issues before they escalate. A comprehensive approach like this is important because we know that psychological safety is an incredibly complex and variable phenomenon and therefore takes sustained effort on the part of a leader to build and maintain within a team.

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Sleep Deprivation and its Impact on the Brain

We’ve all been there… A late night party on a work night, binge watching your favorite television show or jet lagged travel for weeks on end. Sleep deprivation has become a part of our fast-paced lives where we are expected to be available and online more frequently than ever. But science is finding some significant consequences when we don’t get adequate, restful sleep, particularly after an intense day of taxing brain activity. So what is behind this need for sleep in order for us to fire on all cylinders? And what’s the connection between sleep deprivation and its impact on the brain? Let’s explore…

 

Sleep and the Brain: An Essential Connection

Why Sleep Matters for Brain Functioning

Sleep is not just a passive state; it’s a vital process that occupies about one-third of our lives. Many studies have demonstrated negative effects of sleep deprivation on health and longevity.

Sleep has an important function on maintaining our immune system which protects us against infection and disease. Sleep deprivation has been linked to chronic inflammation and increased risk for heart disease, cancer and neurodegeneration. It’s reasonable then to think we would pay close attention to ensure that we get a good night’s sleep, yet it is often one of the most overlooked components of building and maintaining a healthy brain.

In my years of teaching about brain resilience, people seem to understand the role of interventions such as fasting, exercise, mindfulness training and even social connectedness but there seems to be a general disregard for improving our sleep.

However, we are starting to see the impact that sleep deprivation has on basic brain functioning which makes it important to understand as a factor in creating and maintaining a psychologically safe mindset.

 

Sleep’s Role in Psychological Safety

While psychological safety has become a mainstream term, most definitions focus on the team construct and ignore any reference to the brain. But in its purest form:

Psychological safety is the state where your brain’s need for security, autonomy, fairness, esteem and trust within a social environment are sufficiently met.

The S.A.F.E.T.Y.™ model identifies and describes these needs in detail through a neuroscience lens. Therefore, it’s logical to expect that anything impacting key brain networks managing these needs being met would also impact our sense of psychological safety.

 

The Brain’s Nightly Cleanup: The Role of Sleep in Information Processing

Much of the initial research on the impact of sleep deprivation on the brain focused on the biological need for sleep. What it suggests is that sleep serves as a time for the brain to sort of decompress, allowing it to make sense of all the various stimuli it had encountered during the previous day.

This information, whether it be a new person’s face, passages from a book you read, your new team strategy or anything else related to learning and memory, is replayed in your brain during sleep. This allows you to sort through what your brain deems as either important or irrelevant.

The important information is filtered by a deep brain structure called the hippocampus through a process referred to as consolidation. Those important pieces of information are then sent to the cortex for long term storage.

Research has demonstrated quite convincingly that this process is disrupted with sleep deprivation and can lead to cognitive impairments that we are all familiar with when we don’t sleep enough including forgetfulness, loss of focus and slow mental processing.

 

How Sleep Deprivation Affects Psychological Safety

Cognitive Impairments and Psychological Safety

Recent research is showing that sleep deprivation can have a negative impact on social behavior, namely self-regulation and social perception of those around us. In other words, it becomes difficult to manage our emotions as well as put aside our biases to accurately interpret the way other people are behaving.

The theory is that sleep deprived people show dysfunctional brain activity in the prefrontal cortex (PFC) which is a brain region that deals with self-control, inhibition and decision making in the context of reward. What happens then is that changes in this PFC cause increased responses to negative stimuli in our world and lead to reductions in trust and empathy.

 

Sleep Deprivation and its Impact on Teams

Since the PFC is also a key player for attention, the instability in that area leads to impaired social information processing which can really hurt team performance and increase the likelihood of biases and mistakes.

Now, a key behavior of psychologically safe teams is the ability to empathize with others, take their perspective and achieve a sense of vulnerability. So, you can see how traumatic sleep deprivation could be to that key behavior and why it is important to understand the neuroscience underpinnings of psychological safety.

 

Practical Solutions for Improving Sleep and Enhancing Psychological Safety

Addressing Common Sleep Disruptors

Now you’ve probably all heard about the potential roadblocks to a restful night’s sleep and much of it is focused on smartphones and computer device screens.

Early studies suggested that the blue light which is emitted from these devices suppresses melatonin which is a key chemical for sleep. However recent reviews are questioning how impactful that is in delaying our sleep and may not be a huge driver of sleep dysfunction.

Other factors like getting less than 7 hours of sleep, alcohol intake, rumination, an irregular sleep times are also known to be contributing factors but a study last month out of Stanford demonstrated that something as simple as a late bedtime could be a significant factor on mental health.  This large study concluded that to achieve healthy sleep, individuals should start the sleep process before 1:00 AM, regardless of whether or not they consider themselves a “night owl”.

They theorize that neurological and physiological changes which happen late at night can create negative mood, impaired judgment and impulsivity, thus leading to chronic issues.  So, managing our sleep schedule may be as important as how much sleep we actually get.

 

Prioritizing Sleep for Long-Term Psychological Safety

Feeling psychologically safe with the world around us is a phenomenon where many systems need to be operating at optimal efficiency. Sleep is a key contributor to ensuring the efficiency of these systems and therefore should be considered when we think of how to build and maintain our psychological well-being over our lifetime.

 

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